It's me, Dr. Noir, again! I've been reading Sun Tzu's, Art of War, and I see some parallels to getting along with other people.
For example, Sun Tzu says, "When envoys are sent with compliments in their mouths, it is a sign that the enemy wishes for a truce."
So it's important in all relationships to look for offers of "making peace". Look for and make offers of gestures in the form of compliments. Remind yourself and your partner about all the good qualities you see in one another!