Snap! Discovering Love Languages

In the next chapter of our new book, Snap Strategies for Couples: 40 Fast Fixes for Everyday Relationship Pitfalls, Dr. Pepper and I discuss the need to figure out the best ways to communicate and be with your partner. Enjoy this other free sample!

Gary Chapman’s best-selling book The 5 Love Languages is an important read for partners. The general idea is that people, like countries, use different “currencies” to represent a precious commodity. It’s important to make sure you’ve got your partner’s emotional currency right. Because once you understand that your partner may need a different expression of love than you do, and you start speaking your partner’s primary love language, you’ll see how quickly emotions can turn positive.

A love language is the way you express your love and also how other people express their needs for love. If you are speaking French and someone only understands English, your words of love may not be understood or have their full impact. If you are showing love in a way that another person does not understand, they may feel falsely unloved. Showing love in the way your partner wants it shown and translating your own needs for love so that a partner understands how to fulfill them are of fundamental importance. Sharing a love language means that you may alter how you send your partner signals to show you value him or her, and that those signals are received and understood for what they are by that person. Dr. Chapman identifies five easy ways most people attempt to give and receive love, and we feel they are valuable enough to repeat them here.

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