In the next chapter of our new book, Snap Strategies for Couples: 40 Fast Fixes for Everyday Relationship Pitfalls, Dr. Pepper and I discuss the perils of taking a relationship for granted. Have another sneak-peek!
Loving relationships are the most fragile and vulnerable relationships we have with other adults. Couples are more emotionally aware of and affected by each other than people in any other adult relationships. Communicating care, concern, or lust and love should start from the minute you are in one another’s presence.
A clear focus on giving and receiving those signals at first contact can set the mood of the day, the night, or the entire relationship. In contrast, communicating disinterest, being too busy, turning on the TV, or talking on the phone all say, “You are just not that important to me.” The feeling of connection has to be the mainstay of any long-term loving relationship; when it is not, divorce or infidelity is usually not far away.
Taking a minute, really one minute, to hold each other and exchange a kiss or whisper “I am glad to see you” when you first encounter your partner says, “YOU are first and most important in my life. I am here just with you, now.”
Couples look to each other’s signals to be sure “we” are O.K., so if you make sure that message is sent frequently throughout the day, neither of you will be checking or double-checking to figure out how you are doing. Make it clear, anytime. It takes a minute to really look at your partner and communicate, “I am with you, you are with me, and we are the center of our relationship — no one else. Our relationship is the center of my world."
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