In the next chapter of our new book, Snap Strategies for Couples: 40 Fast Fixes for Everyday Relationship Pitfalls, Dr. Pepper and I remind you to try and not jump the gun and assume how your partner might be feeling. Enjoy the free sample!
It is easy to mistake your partner’s bad mood or anger as commentary about you, and react in kind. A pause button on your emotions would probably be a good thing to have, but since you don’t have one, you will have to use the thinking part of your brain to stop from reacting.
Fluctuations in our moods, our emotions, our resilience, and our hormones are normal. Although the two of you may feel emotionally connected, that does not mean that everything you feel is related to your partner. Consider the possibility that your partner’s bad mood, irritability, or out-of-sorts vibes may have nothing to do with you. Sometimes our early warning system is overly sensitive and we see storms heading for us from our partner that are just their inner turmoil or their anxiety about something else in their life — not, thankfully, at least this time, about us!
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