In the penultimate chapter of our new book, Snap Strategies for Couples: 40 Fast Fixes for Everyday Relationship Pitfalls, Dr. Pepper and I discuss the core importance of making consistent, intimate relationship moments. Something special, big or small, every few weeks. Enjoy another free sample!
We believe celebrations are important because they draw attention to something or someone meaningful in your life. Celebrations also highlight shared memories of the good times in your life together. Couples need to remember what they’ve shared and experienced over the years. Celebrating your anniversaries and birthdays is good, but it’s not enough. If possible, celebrate events like the day you first met, your engagement, your best vacation ever, a positive occurrence at work, and the end of a big project. Look for and relive all the good experiences you have shared.
It is easy to let one day drift into the next and have a year or longer of nothing special happening, and that makes any relationship dull. A celebration a month seems like the right tempo to us. Creating shared experiences to celebrate doesn’t have to be elaborate or costly; in fact, the best ones are often free. You can take a picnic to the place that is special to you, write a letter full of praise celebrating your life together, or go for a walk hand in hand and talk about your favorite vacation together. You can also make special experiences into rituals: Have breakfast in bed on Sunday mornings (prepared the night before), go to the outdoor market on Saturday mornings, or watch a romantic movie every Wednesday night. Have coffee or tea at the same spot each week. For those of you with young children who say, “We can’t do that,” we say, “You can and you’d better.” The very best thing you can do for your children is to have a good marriage, and these celebrations and rituals vastly improve your chances of having a marriage go the distance. Make it happen: Exchange time with a neighbor, hire a student for an hour, or trade babysitting with someone else who has kids. You can do it. It is important to continually celebrate your life, your love, and your gratitude toward each other.
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