In the final chapter of our new book, Snap Strategies for Couples: 40 Fast Fixes for Everyday Relationship Pitfalls, Dr. Pepper and I illustrate how easy, and harmful, it is to neglect your partner during long, busy, tiring days. Thanks for reading all these and enjoy the free sample!
You know the drill. Come home. Do all the chores. Check the email or pay bills. Make dinner. Call your mother. A thousand other things, and then you get into bed and go to sleep. You meant to chat and talk about your day together. You meant to make love, but you were just too tired. You meant to plan a trip to the Bahamas, but there was just too much work to do and you decided it was better to put the money into a newer car. The subject varies, but the theme is the same: We do the practical thing and forget about romance, or we just use residual time rather than prime time.
We squeeze in joy rather than putting it before other life needs. We think of it as optional, when it really isn’t. And let’s face it: Sometimes we really would much rather have dessert than an appetizer or even our entrée, but we wait until after the meal is done and by then we are too full or we have spent too much on the other part of the meal. And so we don’t get dessert and it really was the part we wanted the most.
We believe that sometimes dessert has to come first, that something sweet can often be more important for having a joyful life than something “practical.” Or to put it more concretely, sometimes you should just skip dinner and make love. Better to have sex together and a peanut butter sandwich later than to make a great dinner and be too full to want to make love. To our mind, we get our priorities wrong and, ultimately, that hurts the relationship.
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