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It is important to keep perspective: the way you see something may be different than the way someone else sees the same situation. Be receptive and appreciative. It is not necessary to agree, only to know each other at a deeper level through sharing perceptions.
According to the Smithsonian, "As Paris grew into its a role as a major European hub, it eventually ran into a major problem: by the 17th century, enough people had lived and died in Paris that its cemeteries were overflowing, overstuffed with graves to the point when corpses, at times became uncovered. And so the solution arose to place them in the centuries-old tunnels that had existed beneath the streets of Paris since the 13th century, remnants of a time when limestone quarries were mined to build Paris into a thriving city. By the time these burials ended, 6 million Parisians' bones came to their final resting place in the city's catacombs."
I think it is important to keep people of diverse ages in your life. When we were in Paris, our granddaughters wanted to see the Catacombes. Neither Lynn nor I had ever heard of the catacombs, but the girls had watched a scary movie and wanted to see the real thing. Lynn and I were reluctant tourists. It was actually a high-point of the trip.
I think different experiences are important in keeping each of us stimulated, especially the brain. It also helps keep relationships fresh. It is not necessary to spend wads of money to have a good time. We had lunch at Minim's at Maxim's for a fraction of the cost.
Celebrate your way. We saw two couples getting married in Paris. One occurred in front of Notre Dame Cathedral. Formal and lavish.
This young couple are having a wonderful time getting married at Arc de Triomphe (the Arc de Triomphe de l'Étoile is one of the most famous monuments in Paris. It stands in the centre of the Place Charles de Gaulle, at the western end of the Champs-Élysées). A lower budget for this marriage, no formal photographer, just a "selfie", but just as happy. Celebrate any occasion in a way that brings you joy. The important aspect of any special occasion is that it is special to you.